10 Reasons Why Woman’s Don’t Like Sex Any Time even when they are married

Time and again, women-centric fashion and lifestyle magazines keep reiterating how women want just as much sex as men do; how they are just as promiscuous as men and how women are just as psyched about getting some as men. Truth is, in the real world, that hardly ever plays out to be the case. And I know I speak for most men reading this. Just so you know, our sympathies are with you.

But, there are absolutely legit reasons why your woman is not feeling anything down there and no, it has nothing to do with the love dying out. So, before you give up on her and start looking outside of it for some physical solace, read on.

1. She Wants Love

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Women are emotional creatures. Yes, occasionally, you will come across a liberal soul who just wants the fun, no strings 

2. She Needs Time

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Maybe you’re hoping to turn this date into a steamy night now that both of you are on the same page and are up for having sex. But, here’s the thing; even if she’s up for the fun and the sex, she isn’t up for it just yet. Why? She needs the time—to connect with you better, to know you and to know if she will be comfortable with you. Yes, this could mean that the night would end with dinner and a cute peck on the cheek but, nothing more. Hold off till the next date maybe or till she is comfortable enough in her skin to lead the way herself. Forcing her will not speed it up for you, in case you’re wondering and no, ultimatums never work on women. We invented that shit!

3. She Gets Distracted

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Anger, stress, disappointment, a tiring day at work, frustration—these things affect your girl like nothing you know! Sure, for you, all this goes away the minute you step into the confines of your personal space, unwind with a beer and a sensual massage from bae which turns into sex. For her, these feelings, thoughts and situations overwhelm and become her. Yes, you may offer to cook tonight, give her a massage and ever rub her feet; just don’t expect it to turn into sex unless she wants it to. Because then, she’s just going to have one more reason to be angry and that’s not going to help.

4. She Isn’t Physically As Active

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Contrary to what the pseudo-feminists may say, it’s true—women are not physically as strong as men. By the end of the day, she is spent and tired and withdrawn and you can’t blame her! The reason is pretty simple; because she is mentally too strong for you to handle, all of her energies go in micro-managing your lives and thinking up every possible scenario—real or unreal—and deducing every possible outcome in nano-seconds. By the time she’s done, your woman is too exhausted to even think about foreplay!

5. She Judges Herself Too Much

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If she is feeling less than pretty, fat, ugly, smelly, unattractive, bloated, unappreciated or just self-loathing, she is not going to want to strip down naked to be pleasured by you. She doesn’t think she deserves it. In fact, it’s probably one of those days where she’ll quickly just pull on her most unattractive pyjamas over an extra loose t-shirt while avoiding any eye contact with the mirror. Don’t push for sex; she might just cry and you won’t like it.

6. She’s In One Of Her Moods

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Just don’t ask her to explain the moods because it’s one of those things that have no words. It just is, you know. And no, don’t keep pressing to find a word, either because then, she’ll give you too many words to deal with and you’re probably going to bed hungry and dissatisfied, anyway. Just know that the mood is real; the feelings are real and so is the fact that you’re not getting any sex tonight.

7. She Needs Intimacy

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For men, this works very differently. It’s easier for you to shut down the emotional part of your brain while having sex. For women, sex is emotion is sex. These two cannot be separated for her. It’s as good as impossible. Even when she’s the one telling you not to expect anything much out of it, there is still some emotion attached to it. So, if she isn’t feeling intimate with you, it doesn’t matter if you’re the hottest guy walking the earth because she’s not going to have sex with you.

8. She’s Punishing You

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You did something wrong—forgot to do the dishes, forgot to bring her favourite dessert, were flirting with your friend’s lady friend, didn’t give her enough attention at the last party, or just said something that you don’t remember but she does and it wasn’t what she wanted you to say. Don’t ask us. But, you did something wrong and now, she is punishing you the one way she knows it’s working—withholding sex! You’re going to be begging on your knees, pleading to know what happened and she won’t even tell you till you do something absolutely magical that will surprise her and make everything right, instantly. Then, she will treat you to the best sex of your life. But, till then, she’s punishing you because, frankly my dear, you probably deserve it!

9. Age Is Affecting Her

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But, don’t worry it’s affecting you, too. Just, not yet. For women, the 30s to 40s is the time when her libido starts decreasing. So, if you’ve been dating an older woman, or you’re in that zone, you can’t blame her entirely; her hormones are acting up and she’s just not feeling it anymore. It’s biological and quite normal and well, nothing is wrong with that. You might need to work specially hard on making her feel horny, though. But, isn’t it worth it?

10. She’s A Feminist

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And she will blame you for objectifying her by bringing up sex so often. She will put you on the spotlight and  bring out all the sections in the law telling you about how she is more than just an object of desire and you cannot treat her like that and how you’re such  a male chauvinist and how you need to respect women and equality and yada, yada, yada. Basically, next time you want sex, become a feminist and be all about women empowerment and equality—bring out your inner Farhan Akhtar’sM.A.R.D and hope for the best.